If you want to contact me, you need to follow simple directions. Take the domain name you came to (minus the www. or other parts in front) and put jay@ in front of it to get my email address. Don't add me to any mailing lists; that isn't polite.
You can find me on most major IM networks by using some variation of my domain name (except Yahoo, I ended up with a weird one there), but the preferred IM contact method is using XMPP/Jabber/GTalk where you can find me at the same as my email address.